To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients—care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication.
— bell hooks, All About Love
You Might Be Here If…
- You keep finding yourself in the same relationship patterns — even when you want something different.
- Conflict escalates quickly, shuts down completely, or leaves you feeling angry, confused, and far away from the people you care about.
- You struggle to say what you feel, ask for what you need, or stay present when relationships become tense.
- Dating feels frustrating, lonely, or disorienting — and you want to understand what keeps happening beneath the surface.
- You long for closeness, but intimacy can also bring fear, defensiveness, resentment, or the urge to pull away.
- You care deeply about connection, but your relationships keep feeling strained, one-sided, or hard to repair.
- You want to work with anger, communication, trust, or emotional honesty in a way that feels more grounded and less reactive.
- You’re ready to relate with more clarity, care, and mutuality — and you don’t want shame or blame to be the only way in.
What Relationship Coaching Looks Like With Me
Relationships don’t usually struggle because people are broken. More often, they get caught in patterns — cycles of disconnection, misunderstanding, fear, and protection.
I work with individuals to slow those patterns down enough to actually see them.
This work can support you whether you’re in a new relationship, navigating a long-term partnership, dating, exploring poly or nontraditional relationship structures, or struggling to build the kind of connection you want.
We pay attention to what happens in moments of tension or distance: what each person is feeling, what they are protecting, what they are needing, and how the cycle between you takes shape.
This work is about building more awareness, more emotional steadiness, and more mutual ways of relating.
We often focus on three things: patterns, emotional capacity, and reconnection.
Patterns
We slow the situation down and look at the cycle your relationship keeps falling into.
What happens during conflict.
Who pursues, who withdraws.
What gets triggered beneath the surface.
When the pattern becomes clearer, it becomes easier to step outside of it.
Capacity
Hard conversations require steadiness.
We work with the emotions that show up in relationships — anger, defensiveness, fear, hurt, vulnerability — so they don’t completely take over the conversation.
This helps you stay present and communicate more honestly.
Reconnection
We begin practicing new ways of relating.
That might include clearer communication, stronger boundaries, deeper listening, and repairing after conflict.
The goal isn’t perfect relationships — it’s relationships that feel more mutual, honest, and alive.
Relationships ask a lot from us.
This work isn’t about becoming a perfect partner.
It’s about understanding yourself more clearly, staying present in difficult moments, and learning how to relate with more honesty, care, and intention.